Wednesday, March 13, 2013

What to Say to a Friend Going Through Tough Times

The week Alan found out about his scary test results was a tough one. One night, I told my friend Stacy what was going on, and afterwards, she said something that completely surprised me. It was so sweet, thoughtful and incredibly simple, but I don't know if anyone had ever asked me before. Being the wonderful friend she is, it makes perfect sense that she would ask...


"Is there anything I can do for you?"

It's hard for me to ask for help (I always worry I'm inconveniencing people!) so her sincere question felt like a big relief. Now, whenever someone's going through a difficult time, I'll ask this question instead of saying, "Let me know if there's anything I can do." While it's just subtly different, I like that it's a little more direct.

Are you good at asking for help? Or are you the same way? What's the best thing someone's said to you during a tough time? 


(top photo by Grace E. Jones, bottom photo by Jackie Bjornert)

4 comments:

ami said...

That's so simple, yet so perfect! Sometimes I think it, but don't say it because... well, I don't know! I will definitely make it a point to say it more from now on.

I'm not good at asking people for things, either. I don't like or want to inconvenience others, and often I put on too brave of a face to make it seem like things are okay when they're not, because I want to seem strong. I've been working on reaching out to people more, though, and it's amazing how awesome and helpful so many people are and want to be!

I hope that things with Alan are going okay, and even though we are virtually strangers, please let me know if there's anything I can do for you in this tough time!

Sobrina Tung said...

ami, you are so sweet. thank you for your offer. (it brought tears to my eyes!)

Stacy said...

You bring tears to my eyes. I love you, Sob.

Sobrina Tung said...

i love you too, stace! :)

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